When you start to evaluate your present relationships, you are going to discover that there are some friendships you need to cut off and some to develop. The following are a few basic guidelines that will help you develop relationships at each stage.
The Acquaintance
Be alert and aware of each new person around you. Have a cheerful, friendly countenance – smile! Learn and remember the person’s name and then greet him by name the next time you meet. Ask appropriate questions that reflect your interest and acceptance, and then be a good listener. Remind yourself of the interest that God has for that person, and it will help you keep the right focus.
The Casual Friend
Discover the person’s strong points. Learn about the wholesome desires that person has for his life. Design and ask specific questions. Show a genuine interest and concern if the person shares his problems with you. Then interchange with him. Be honest about ourselves and acknowledge your own faults.
The Close Friend
See the potential in the person’s life and discover and discuss specific goals that he has. Assume a personal responsibility for the development of those goals. Be creative. Design projects that will help the person achieve his/her goals. Then learn how to build their interest in the projects that you develop. Always be alert to scriptures that will encourage or guide them.
The Intimate Friend
Learn how to give comfort to the person during their trials and sorrows. Be sensitive to traits and attitudes that need to be improved. Encourage them to tell you about your faults too, and search the scriptures for keys to a solution.
Finally, make a commitment to be faithful, loyal, and available to one another.
Enjoy the benefits of developing these different stages of friendships, because God wants you blessed in all ways – that includes socially.
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Pastor Deborah L. Butler is the first lady Word of Faith International Christian Centre located in Southfield, Michigan where she serves in ministry with her husband, Bishop Keith A. Butler.
Pastor Deborah is a licensed and ordained minister of the Gospel. Her encouraging, yet down-to-earth teaching imparts wisdom from the Word of God into all that hear her speak. One of Pastor Butler’s many duties is serving as the Director of the Women of Virtue Ministry. Pastor Deborah is often called to travel to other ministries to teach and admonish women to walk in the wisdom of God, and to experience peace in every area of their lives.