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Have you ever explained something to someone in a way you thought was very clear and concise, only to have them say they did not understand you? I think we all have experienced this! People process information differently. What is clear to you may not be clear to someone else.

One of the biggest enemies to successful relationships is miscommunication, especially in marriages. Whether speaking to a friend, coworker, business partner, or your children, effective listening and speaking skills are important. A simple misunderstanding can cause mishaps, unnecessary confusion, and even severed relationships. How we present and receive information greatly impacts our interaction with others.

Merriam-Webster's Dictionary defines communication as "a process by which information is exchanged between individuals." The word exchange implies communication involves two things—listening and speaking. There is an exchange of words and understanding between you and someone else. You must be able to receive and present information with clarity to avoid miscommunication.

In order to develop your listening skills, you must maximize the fruitfulness of your communications. God purposefully created humans with two ears and one mouth. I believe He intended for us to listen twice as much as we speak. However, the opposite is usually the case in everyday conversations.

Is there such a thing as right and wrong listening? Absolutely! Right listening occurs when you maintain a positive attitude while listening to the other person, understanding the message being conveyed. Wrong listening occurs when you remain quiet, waiting only to formulate your response.

There is a difference between actually listening to someone and simply hearing them without hearing what is being said. Listening with a bad attitude also involves having wrong motives. For example, you listen while being prepared to find fault in what the other person is saying, without considering or trying to understand the message being conveyed.

A quote by George Bernard Shaw states, "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." To avoid this type of illusion, be sure to repeat what you heard. Sometimes you have to stretch your thinking to make sure you have fully comprehended what is being communicated verbally and sometimes nonverbally.

It is always a good idea to strive for clarity in all interactions to avoid having to clear up confusion later. That is why I love this ministry's motto which states, "… In all your getting get understanding." (Prov. 4:7, NKJV)

Scripture References: Proverbs 4:7, NKJV

Creflo Dollar Ministries
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Author Biography

Creflo A. Dollar
Web site: World Changers Ministries
Creflo Dollar is the founder and senior pastor of World Changers Church International (WCCI) in College Park, Georgia; World Changers Church-New York; and a host of fellowship churches throughout the United States and internationally. WCCI also has offices in Australia (serving the Asia-Pacific region), South Africa, Canada, the United Kingdom, India, and the Ukraine.

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