In Luke 9 we see an opportunity for Jesus to become offended, but let's see how He reacted. Jesus was preparing for a meeting in Samaria, and He sent His crusade team ahead to prepare the way and get everything ready to announce the meeting.

As Jesus approaches the city, His team meets Him outside of town and says, "The Samaritans have refused to let You come in." (Author's paraphrase) Because of the Samaritan's attitude, Jesus' disciples wanted to call fire down from heaven on them. They wanted to burn them up. They had scriptures and proof that it had been done before (in the story of Elijah; 1 Kings 18:19-40), so they thought they had the right to do it, too.

They wanted to burn them to a crisp. But notice Jesus' response to their disappointing news:

But he turned and rebuked them, and said, Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of. For the Son of man is not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them. And they went to another village.
(Luke 9:55-56)

I want you to notice that it didn't even phase Jesus. It didn't alter where He was going or the course He was called to do. It didn't even slow Him down one bit. He didn't retaliate. He didn't want to strike back. He simply said, "You do not know what spirit you are of." And He turned and rebuked them. That was His response.

Now, when we've been offended or we've been hurt, we can choose to either retaliate with vengeance or we can choose to cover over and forebear. Which are you going to do?

When your spouse says something that could hurt you, you can either strike back with an ugly remark, or do what Jesus did - move on! Confront the offense and deal with it immediately. Don't let roots grow up on the inside of you for years and years and never deal with it. Don't stop your destiny simply because you were hurt by someone years ago.

I made the decision that I would no longer wonder if I've offended someone. Now I go right up to that person and politely ask them. I want all offenses dealt with immediately in my life so I can progress in my walk with God. I don't want anything holding me back.

Hopefully you'll become more aware of opportunities to become offended and you'll learn to resist them. On the other hand, hopefully you'll become more aware of opportunities that come for you to offend someone and repel them as well. Confront the offense and move forward.