To do that, you'll need preparation time. Jesus took thirty years to prepare for a three-year ministry. Solomon took seven years to build the temple. Moses was in the house of Pharaoh and on the backside of the mountain for years before he stepped into God's plan to deliver Israel from Egyptian bondage.
Any good marriage needs a good foundation. The bigger your dream is, the greater the foundation that has to be laid.
Maybe it seems as if it's taking a long time for the right person to come into your life. But why not take advantage of this time by preparing yourself for your future and your mate?
Don't Get in a Hurry
Don't let the devil make you feel anxious about getting married. You don't want to get in a hurry. People who rush into things many times just end up frustrated or hurt. It's a big mistake to rush into marriage because you are overeager, and you end up settling for second best.
Have you ever bought something in a hurry and settled for second best? For example, one time I found a pair of shoes that I absolutely adored. Only they didn't have them in my size. The shoe salesman came out from the back room with a pair that was a half-size smaller, assuring me not to worry because they would stretch.
Have you been there? I tried the shoes on and they looked beautiful, but my feet were in pain! Guess what I did? I bought them anyway, because they looked good!
Well, the next week I preached in them, and I could hardly concentrate on my sermon because all I could think about was needing a healing in my feet! They hurt so badly!
I settled for second best. At least it was only a pair of shoes and not a husband! Don't settle for marrying someone who you know isn't the right one for you. In the end, you'll be glad you waited.
We need to prepare and become like the person we're believing for.
Prepare Yourself
Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead (James 2:17 NKJV).
If you desire to be married and you are believing God to send you a mate, you must realize the importance of preparing yourself so that you're ready when he or she shows up.
If you want your future mate to be getting prepared for you, then you should be getting prepared for that person! During this preparation time, keep trusting that God is working in both of you while you are waiting and that at the right time He will cause your paths to cross.
What's on Your List?
Most of the single people I meet have a list of things they're looking for in a mate. And that's good! But we need to be realistic about some of the things on our list, and most importantly, we need to look first at ourselves. Do we match the person we are looking for?
Let me give you an example. I knew one woman who had a really long list of things she wanted in a husband. He had to be a millionaire, and she wanted him to be in really good shape. she wanted a "Mr. Muscle."
But the funny thing was, this lady herself was in debt up to her eyebrows, and she was 70 pounds overweight! That's probably never going to work!
We need to prepare and become like the person we're believing for. If you're ten pounds overweight, you can't say, " I don't want anyone who's even one pound overweight."
In other words, if you want someone who is toned and gorgeous, then you need to work at becoming more like that. If you want someone who is good with money, you need to become a person who is good with money.
The simplest way to say it is: You need to become what you are looking for.
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