Studies show that one of the primary reasons that teens date is to fulfill their desire for companionship. They are looking for good friends who care about them. They are fooled into thinking that "the farther I go with this person, the better friends we will be."
Just the opposite is true. After a few dates, kissing substitutes for real communication. Before long, more sexual involvement follows with the hope that it will make you closer.
So, here is the all-too-common scenario on most weekends: you go on a date feeling lonely or that you really want to talk, but then you start fooling around; instead of finding the companionship you were seeking, you end up emptier than you began.
The very thing you want out of the relationship (a real friendship) is the very thing that physical involvement makes impossible! As you make a commitment and stay away from any immorality before marriage, you will have a much greater possibility of having a real friendship with the person you date.
The closeness you really want is impossible to find if you get involved sexually. Sex will enhance the closeness a couple has only after close friendship BEFORE they were married and they chose to wait and do it God's way.
If you do not have a heart-to-heart friendship with a person, having sex with him or her will not give it to you. Getting physical at all before marriage will only destroy your relationship.
This seems illogical to the world, but it is the truth.
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