We have to choose to forgive. It's a choice we make minute by minute. You can finish reading this and instantly have the opportunity to be offended by someone and then develop unforgiveness towards that person.
Unforgiveness in your heart affects you...not them.
Are there things that your spouse did that you just can't seem to forget? It may have even been ten years ago, and you're still walking around with that in your heart. Well, you are the one being hurt when you hold an offense.
Your life will stop progressing because of the offense, not your spouse's life. You have got to make a decision once and for all that today is the day that you will release all unforgiveness from your heart.
It could be the very thing that's kept your victory from manifesting.
You have to make a quality decision to never, never, never bring up that offense again. Don't talk about it. Don't think about it. Don't mention it.
Forget it. It's over with. It's been uprooted and removed out of your heart. You are free from unforgiveness in Jesus' Name.
If you have been abused mentally, physically or even sexually, you need to ask the Holy Spirit to come on the scene and help you release the offense in your life that has caused you so much pain.
The anointing destroys the yoke of bondage - all types of bondages - even the bondage of unforgiveness. Jesus is there to comfort you and to help you get over this hurt in your life.
"Who is weak, and I do not feel [his] weakness? Who is made to stumble and fall and have his faith hurt, and I am not on fire [with sorrow or indignation]?" (2 Cor. 11:29 AMP).
Excerpt permission granted by Jerry Savelle Ministries International