You have a choice. You can choose to be offended, to carry that offense with you everywhere you go for years and years. You can choose to voice that offense to everyone in order to obtain sympathy. You can be what the devil wants you to be - offended. Or you can choose not to be offended.
For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps;

Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously.
(1 Peter 2:21-23)
That's what God has called us to do. You'll notice in the life of Noah, where two of his sons were concerned, that Noah had committed a sin but these two sons decided to cover their father's sin. What did they do? They didn't look on the sin. They walked backwards to where their father was and wouldn't look on the sin.

They didn't announce it to "prime time." They didn't send it to all the Christian tabloids to get it put in the magazines. They didn't tell it from neighbor to neighbor and from minister to minister to get it spread like wildfire throughout the Body of Christ, instead they covered him up.

Many times we feel like the injustice done to us was too harsh for us to forgive. Especially in the case of someone being violated in some form, but according to Matthew 18:21-22 we must forgive our trespassers because God, in His mercy, has forgiven us. Notice the illustration:
Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.

And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.

Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

Then came Peter to him, and said, "Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?" Jesus saith unto him, "I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven."
(Matt. 18:15-22)
It is an act of your will to forgive those who have hurt you. The Word of God is the standard by which we are entitled to live, and it plainly says that you must forgive and release offenses from your heart. For me, once it is pointed out in the Word of God, I get determined real quick to change.

I choose to be a person who is not offended. That's the key. We have the choice to let things hurt us, or to forgive and move on.

When you choose not to be offended and begin to pray for that person, just as you would for a very close friend or a relative, the anointing of God will come and deliver and destroy those yokes, and a relationship can be built.

Source: Conquering The Spirit Of Offense by Carolyn Savelle.
Excerpt permission granted by Jerry Savelle Publications