The Word is not just paper and ink - it's life. And we need to be established through the Word on this subject of woman, wife, and mother.

Neither was man created on account of or for the benefit of woman, but woman on account of and for the benefit of man.

Therefore she should [be subject to his authority and should] have a covering on her head [as a token, a symbol, of her submission to authority, that she may show reverence as do] the angels [and not displease them].

Nevertheless, in [the plan of] the Lord and from His point of view woman is not apart from and independent of man, nor is man aloof from and independent of woman;

For as woman was made from man, even so man is also born of woman, and all [whether male or female go forth] from God [as their Author].
(1 Cor. 11:9-12 AMP)
First Corinthians 11:7 tells us man is the image and reflected glory of God, and that woman is the expression of man's glory, his majesty, and preeminence. That's the reason we should respect the position he is in and honor him.

In doing that, we cause him to be complete and to function on this earth as God intended.

That's part of our adapting and being suitable—part of our responsibility as a woman. The husband/wife relationship is not just something the world thought up. It's from God.

Remember Who Comes First
It is so important that before you marry you establish your relationship with the Father God. If you know Him intimately, then the natural laws which cause you to be effective to a man automatically fall into place.

You have such a relationship and fellowship with God that you know how He created you and why, and you can flow in that. You know what you are supposed to do.

The Bible says we are to submit ourselves to our husbands. Submission is an attitude of the heart, not a physical action. That's why the Bible says to submit to your husband as to the Lord (Eph. 5:22). How do you submit yourself to Jesus? With an attitude of love.

In a marriage, you understand authority, you understand your husband's position, you understand submission—and you have no problem submitting.

You are not going to be a robot, but you and your husband will form a union. That is what God desires. Because you were made for man, you have a responsibility to look at marriage this way.

If we are submitted to Jesus and He is Lord of our life, we should not wonder what He can do for us, but we should ask, "What can we do for Him?" We can reach out and bring other people into balance by bringing them to Him, being ministers of reconciliation. We bring balance, too—and completion—to the marriage union.

Since we were also made for man, we need to see what we can do for him. That way, by adapting ourselves, and by making ourselves suitable and completing, we will reap the benefits of the law of giving and receiving.

Love never fails. And you do this through love. Your husband has to respond to love, because love draws—it never pushes away.

If in your marriage there are times you feel you're being separated or drawn away from your husband, don't get your eyes on the circumstances or your mate (saying he does this or that). Check up on yourself. The Lord can show you areas where you are not fulfilling your role as you should. When you begin to adapt, everything will come into perspective.

You're Stronger Than You Think
As woman, because we have been classified as the weaker sex, we want to sit down and let man wait on us, put us up on a pedestal because we're delicate, and do things that are supposed to be done for a lady.

But that isn't the way it is.

Man and woman are equal in the sight of God. He created you for man; you're strong. You are perfect in the Lord Jesus Christ.

So be suitable, adaptable, and completing to your husband, continually surrounding him with aid and assistance. In that way, you will be following the role of woman that God created you for.

You will be the joy your husband desires, and yes, you will be the only person in his life. And He will lift you up.

Source: The Spirit-Filled Mother's Guide to Total Victory by Harrison House Authors
Excerpt permission granted by Harrison House Publishers