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Each stage of life has its own unique characteristics. There are ups and there are downs. My desire is to cherish and learn from them all while striving to remain content in whatever season of life I find myself in.

October 2013

My best friend is happily dating someone right now. Since I consider her my sister more than a friend, I am thrilled. She's found a good man and they are going through some of the best times of life—falling in love with the person you're potentially going to marry.

Hearing about her dates and watching her interact with her significant other sometimes makes me wish I was dating my husband-to-be again. Then as I picture myself re-living the exciting aspects of dating, I also remember the relational challenges and learning curves we worked through. I quickly remember that I am fully content being in the stage of life I am now in: marriage.

Isn't it easy to look at someone else having a wonderful time and think, I wish I was in their shoes? This human tendency to compare our lives to others is something we all face, yet in doing so, we run the risk of minimizing or not even recognizing the wonderful, positive things going on in our own lives and relationships.

Watching my friend reminds me of the balance and beauty in every season of life—and the fact that it’s up to me to discover and hold onto the positives in each stage I've been through because those experiences will carry me through the less glamorous moments of my ongoing journey.

Dating has a charm to it that married couples will never have again. That first-time joy and wonder of discovering someone else’s feelings for you and opening your life up to them can’t be replicated. On the other hand, the feelings, trust, and love established while dating are only deepened and strengthened during marriage in a way that dating couples won’t understand until it’s their turn.

Building a new life together, satisfying one's role as a spouse, and experiencing the fulfillment of becoming a parent are just a few of the wonderful attributes that await my friend and anyone else who plans to get married.

Every period of life has its own unique characteristics and my desire is to cherish and learn from them all while remaining content along the way. I want to use every experience as an opportunity to become a better person, parent, spouse, and friend.

Growing up, most people have dreams and aspirations of finding that special someone, becoming engaged, and eventually getting married and starting a family. The actual process, however, sometimes doesn't go exactly as planned. When that happens, it's easy to wish you were in a different stage of life.

However, thoughts such as these can be dangerous to entertain because they lure our attention away from the blessings of today. It’s one thing to think about and appreciate wonderful memories from years past, but it’s another thing to “camp” there and do nothing but yearn or strive for ways to relive or recreate the magic from a time that has passed.

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. In fact, when we change something in our lives to specifically get over to the "greener pasture," we will quickly realize that it is a manufactured reality and wish we were right back in the season we had just left!

This is why it’s good to remember that you and I serve a God who takes the season we are in and helps us find the good in it. After all, we have something we can be thankful for each and every day. So as we strive to live our lives to the best of our abilities, let’s not overlook the positives along the way. They are there, just waiting to be discovered, recognized, and appreciated for what they are.

I am learning that all seasons of life are good, God-things. Something beautiful is either on the surface or buried inside each and every day. It’s my job to do what Paul did:

...for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
(Phil. 4:11-13)

Personally, I’m hoping to don a bridesmaid dress soon and watch my best friend walk down the aisle. I'd love for her to enjoy that season of life! But until that day comes, I’m going to simply enjoy her season of dating, love my season of marriage, and look forward to all that God holds for both of us in the future.

What season are you in right now? Are you in a new relationship? Are you about to celebrate another anniversary? Maybe you are divorced or still single and are simply enjoying time with friends and family? It doesn’t matter who or where you are, it is our desire here at cfaith to provide you with the Word of God you need to continue in your season as well as prepare you for the next one.

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Remember, God knows what season you’re in. So stay focused on the positives and allow His joy, peace, and encouragement to fulfill your life as you strive to remain content in Him.

Striving together with you,

Laura Wegener

Author Biography

Laura Wegener
Web site: Laura Wegener
Beyond writing, Laura Wegener loves spending time with her family, reading, and helping out at church.

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