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If you sow seeds of loyalty, your leaders will be loyal to you. If you are not loyal to your leaders, they will find someone else to follow.
Loyalty is the glue that holds your team together. If you want loyalty from your team members, be loyal to them.

I remember the first time I complained about another staff member to my pastor.

He looked at me and asked, “Have you talked to them?”


“Then why are you talking to me?”

I never did that again.

From that point on, if I had conflict with someone I did what Mathew 18:15 tells us to do.

“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.”

Have you been on the other side of that?

An angry parent complains about you to your supervisor or another staff person tries to pull the “end run.” If you have not had this experience yet, you will. The enemy does not want your team to bond together. He is going to take shots at you and your leaders.

Do you have a plan?

What do you do when someone complains to you about one of your leaders?

It’s pretty simple really. What does the Bible say? “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

What do you want your team members to do when someone criticizes you? What kind of seeds do you want to sow?

If you sow seeds of loyalty, your leaders will be loyal to you. If you are not loyal to your leaders, they will find someone else to follow.

Some of you may be thinking that your supervisor is not loyal to you. You may work at a church where the “end run” is part of the church culture. It seems like everybody does it.

    You cannot control what your boss does.
    You cannot control what any one else does.
    You can only control what you do.

David practiced loyalty. He remained loyal to Saul even though Saul was not loyal to him.

Do you want to be a Saul, or do you want to be a David?

If you are loyal to your leaders, they will be loyal to you. It’s similar to the principal of forgiveness. God doesn’t tell me to forgive because He is taking the other guy’s side. He tells me to forgive because it is good for me.

When you are loyal to your leaders it is good for you, it’s good for for them and it’s good for the kids in your church.

Several years ago at Kids Camp I had to miss a puppet rehearsal. I put Kevin, who was 14, in charge of rehearsal.

Whenever you promote someone to a new leadership position there are going to be people who challenge their leadership. Some people are thinking. “Why are they in charge?”

When I returned several hours later Kevin was in tears. We had a total leadership melt down and service was starting in one hour. I gathered Kevin and the rest of the team and corrected the whole team.

“If I put someone in charge you need to listen to them like you listen to me.”

I put Kevin in charge again and we rehearsed all the skits one more time. (If a new leader fails, the worst thing you can do is take the leadership away from them.) After that experience Kevin was totally committed to me and he became one of my strongest leaders.

Do not put someone in a position of leadership if you are not willing to back them up. They will get shot at. Your job is to cover their back. If you got their back they will always be loyal to you.

Is it possible that one of your leaders will be disloyal to you even if you are loyal to them?

Yes. It does happen, however it’s guaranteed they will be disloyal to you if you are not loyal to them.

Copyright ©  Mark Harper Ministries

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Author Biography

Mark Harper
Web site: Mark Harper Ministries
Pastor and Leadership Coach, Mark Harper has 35 years of experience in the local church. He is the creator of the Super Church 2.0 Curriculum, which is used in over 5,000 churches worldwide. The focus of Mark's ministry is helping leaders build strong churches and helping parents build strong families. Not only has Mark served in the local church as pastor, associate pastor, and family ministry pastor but he is also a certified coach with the John Maxwell Team. He also recently released the Amazon Best Selling book The Red Book: The Lifeblood of Children's Ministry.

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