I just want you to know that if you want to be married, then you're not one of those! God wants to give you the desires of your heart.
And it's never too late. Some people think they're too old to get married, but it's not true. One time an 84-year old man asked me to pray with him for a wife. At first I thought he was joking! But that was really the desire of his heart.
So I said, "Sure, if that's the desire of your heart, then God will give it to you. I'll pray with you!" We prayed, and do you know it wasn't too long after that, that God brought him a beautiful wife, and they have a wonderful relationship. She was 75, and he told me later that he married a younger woman!
God can give you the desire of your heart, too, no matter how old you are or what your circumstances may be.
Don't Be Afraid
Every time I talk to a group of singles, there is always someone who says they don't want to be married. And that's fine, as long as you want to be single for the right reason. But sometimes people want to remain single out of fear and not because the Lord is leading them to be single.
When a relationship in the past has gone sour, we're often afraid to try again. Too many times our lives are about "failure avoidance." We're so afraid of failure and rejection that we determine never to get married because we don't want to be hurt again.
I've known many people who put walls up because they've been hurt in the past, saying, "I will never be involved in a relationship again." Really they're saying that out of fear, and they may be closing the door to a better plan for their life.
I often ask these people, "Would you get married if you found the right person?" and they almost always say yes. So I want to encourage you to examine your heart and not be afraid to believe God for a mate.
"Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart" (Ps. 37:4).
God wants to give you the desires of your heart, and that includes a mate. If it's your heart's desire to be married, then you can stand on God's Word knowing that He will bring it to pass.
But notice what this Scripture says that we should do first, and that is to delight ourselves in the Lord. In other words, we should not allow our thinking to be so consumed with wanting to be married that we miss what God has for us in this season of our life.
Because you know what? You can never go back in time. So enjoy the season that you're in right now, and keep pressing into God.
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